This module was prepared by Cadet Kelly Melfi, and presented in class on 5/11/2020. The class Power Point is attached under Aims below.
To explore how as corps officers, whenever we we meet with our people, we can discover and strengthen our "WE" because this will involve us all.
What is family? We were created for belonging. Today, family is expressed in many ways.
"Christian family is first and finally the life of the church" (Banks & Stevens, 1997, p. 129).
Which of these characteristics of healthy families have we seen? (U. S. Department of Health and Human Services)
Four common problems:
Families build our character and form our identity. We learn to adapt and live with others.
But we may live out of unhealthy roles we learned in childhood.
We also have to be careful as leaders, and some of us with a more alpha presence that we do not constantly inflict this on our people because they want to learn, step-up, grow, explore their gifts as leaders and beyond… but they will not have the space if we are constantly in the way.
What is marriage? Today, there are many expressions of marriage, but they all involve a covenant or agreement. Christian marriage that reflects the Trinity, co-equal in power and glory, protects the home from the improper use of power (CBE international).
Marriage and family can be tricky to navigate because roles and relationships will all look different for each one of us and if we do not navigate this properly, then we can ALL easily have problems within our marriages: Corps families, potential corps families, and in our own families!
The couple forms the WE at the center of the family. If there is a breakdown in the WE, this will affect the entire family.
Which of these pressures on the family have we seen?
DON'T weaponize Scripture!!!
DO see beyond the presenting problem to the
DO be aware that these dynamics apply to us as well
DO move from rescuing to coaching (Brown & Errington, 2019)
Who can be abused? Intimate partner, child, elder, parent, sibling, pet
How is abuse expressed? Physical, emotional, sexual, reproductive, financial, digital, spiritual
“Intimate relationship of any kind increases the likelihood of violence” (Strong & Cohen, 2017, p. 448).
Learn to recognize the signs of abuse in children and in adults (see PP slides)
Assess the situation (see PP slides)
Have resources you can call on and refer the person to
Banks, R. & Stevens, P. (1997). The Complete Book of Everyday Christianity. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press.
Brown, J. & Errington, L. (Eds). (2019). Bowen Family Systems Theory in Christian Ministry. Australia. The Family Systems Practice & Institute.
Garland, D. (2012). Family Ministry. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press.
Strong, B. & Cohen, T. (2017). The Marriage and Family Experience. Boston, MA: Cengage Learning.